Seeley woke up early on Saturday morning. Wes and I were both tired. Thus began the standoff. Neither of us wanted to aknowledge that the baby had woken us up in the hopes that the other would get up with the baby. Finally, when Seeley was at maximum squirminess, we broke. "Why do I have to get up with her?" " Well why do I have to?"
It's embarrasing to say that we've had more than one of these conversations. Whether it's about getting up, changing diapers, walking her around the house when she's fussy; we've done the thing parents should NEVER do. We've been keeping score. Keeping score is easy to do but completely counterproductive. I can say that I spend more time with the baby during the day and therefore deserve more of a break when Wes gets home. He can say that he works hard at his job all day and gets up very early and therefore deserves more of a break. We do different things but we both are working hard to live the life we want and give the best to Seeley.
The thing about parenthood that's difficult isn't the baby. It's balancing everything around the baby. Seeley makes the schedule in our house and sometimes it's difficult to get up and do what needs to be done. Wes and I know that we both parent equally. After a cup or two of strong coffee we agreed that we need to stop keeping score. Hopefully through honest communication (we've been really good about asking for breaks) the keeping score will go away:)
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